Thursday, March 18, 2010

Until We Walk a Mile...

So often we get mired down in our own problems that we do not see another person's problem. Their problem makes our problem look like a walk in the park. This exact thing happened to me today, and now my problems do not seem like such a big deal.

Jeff told me a story tonight. As some of you know, he is a librarian at a local high school. He said that a student came in today and wanted to return a book that he had had checked out for a long time. The book had been reported lost. He had a fee for the lost book, which he had, and had a late fee. He needed to pay his late fee so that he could receive his report card tomorrow. Jeff said that this boy is a really nice kid. He is always smiling and friendly. Jeff looked up his fines and it said that he owed $36.00. He didn't have to pay the $35.00 because the book was not lost, but he did owe $1.00 for the late fee. As Jeff was talking to the student, the library phone rang, and Jeff's assistant answered it. While she was on the phone, Jeff told the student that all he owed was a dollar. The kid said he did not have a dollar with him. Jeff told him that was okay. He would call the secretary and tell her to go ahead and give him his report card tomorrow, because he was going to pay the fine. The young man said he wouldn't get his report card tomorrow anyway because he hadn't taken any of his finals. Jeff thought this was strange, but said, "Okay." As the kid left he said, "Thank you for your help, and have a good day!"

When Jeff's assistant came out of her office after talking on the phone, she told him that she had been talking to the secretary from the main office. The young man had been in her office a little earlier asking if he owed any money. She knew that he was coming to the library to check on his fines and she wanted to make sure that they told him he didn't need to pay the fines. In fact, the office staff had already decided they would pay anything he owed out of their own pockets!

Here is his story. This kid is 17 years old. His dad is in the final stages of cancer and is dying in the hospital. The kid is working a full time job on third shift. He goes to school, goes to the hospital to see his dad, takes a nap, and works all night, and then starts all over the next day. Jeff said you would never know he had any problems. He is always friendly and has a smile on his face.

This story really made me think. So many times we think our problems are so big. Sometimes we make the littlest things out to be the end of the world. We all know people who have a good life, but they are very unfriendly and never smile. Here is this kid dealing with issues that would discourage an adult and he does it with a smile on his face. We often talk about inspirations; this kid should be an inspiration to us all.

If he can go through life being friendly to people and with a smile on his face, so can we. I would like you all to pray for this young man. Pray that he is given the peace and the courage to deal with this difficult situation. Pray that he never loses his positive attitude, and that everything works out for him. Let us all try to be an inspiration like this young man. If he can do it, so can we.

Speaking of inspirations, have you visited Kim at Dear Daisy Cottage. Her home was featured in the 2009 Home Tour Edition of Country Sampler Magazine. She has a beautiful house, and is a very talented writer and photographer. I really enjoy visiting her blog, and I think you will too. Tell her Dan sent you. To visit Kim's blog, click here.

Thank you for visiting Yesterday Once More. I appreciate you making it part of your day. Don't forget to enter my give away; the deadline is March 20th. Check out my March 11th post for details. I hope you are having a wonderful evening, and that you are spending it doing something that you love. Never forget that there is always someone out there with bigger problems, and continue to be the inspiration that you are to so many people.

Take Care!


Brandi @ Frugal Farmhouse said...

That is a wonderful story. totally agree. We received a phone call yesterday saying that my sisters leukemia has progressed and they have to put her on the next level of medication. She is only 16 and is the best kid in the world. She is so positive and upbeat. Whenever I am feeling down about whatever I just think about her and how lucky we are to still have her here and everything else seems so small. Thank you for sharing, I will pray for this special kid and his family

Carol said...

What a brave soul this young man is. Thank God for people like your Jeff, and the others at his school to help out of the goodness of their hearts. I will certainly keep this young man in my prayers. Thanks Dan for sharing this with those of us who are more fortunate than some and need reminding that we should have more compassion and understanding before popping off if we think we have it so "bad". Hope you had a great St. Paddy's Day!

Sandy said...

Your story touched me...

It's a reminder for all of us. We should never judge a person until you know the whole story and at one point in our life we have all been guilty of this.

I pray that this young boy will continue throughout his life to be the most wonderful young man that he is.

♦Lynne♦Down Willow Lane♦ said...

This sad story comes a day after a sad event that has happened here.I came home Wednesday evening to police and an ambulance in our road.It was outside the home of a pleasant but private man who lived alone.After a lot of fussing about,the ambulance left quietly.The police continued to stay.Sometime afterwards out of the darkness, a hearse slowly arrived and this man's body was taken away.He had taken his own life.He was only 38.It has really hit me hard that this man has now gone and what pain he must have felt to have taken the decision to end it all.As you say,we should think more about others and how they are feeling.I really hope that the boy in your tale says strong enough to cope and he has lots of support to help him through this tough time. :(

Pieced Pastimes said...

It sounds like this young man is going through so much. May God ease his pain in the days ahead.

hillcresthomeprims said...

Dan, Jeff's story really got to me!! I cried, what a wondeful, brave young and you can count on my Honey and I to PRAY for him. My Uncle is dying right now and it is very, very hard to see because we are so close but I am also in my 40's not 17 and losing my father. Dan, my heart bleeds for this young man!

On a lighter note I LOVE your famiy picutre I saw with you, Jeff and of course Parker and Peyton. We hve 3 poodles so we are also dog lovers!!!!! My other Uncle and his married partner which I call him Uncle Chuck have a home just like your. They love antiques etc,but I would LOVE to come over and stay in that PINK bedroom it is my favorite color!!!!! I sent my Uncle your blog and the HOME TOUR magzine!!!!! Their home was built in the 1800's andhas 2 fireplace one in the kitchen that you can cook. We love to go over in the summer. We go every year and we enjoy it so much!!! They take us to all the great shops around them!!!!

Please tell Jeff thank you for sharing that story with you and then sharing it with us! Our problems seems so small and I am praying for him!

BIG, BIG Hugs,
Hillcrest Home Prims

JenR65 said...

Good post today Dan, makes us all think... Enjoy your day and your weekend!

Claudia said...

What a beautiful story!

Daisy Cottage said...

Thank you so much for sharing about this special young man. God bless him. And how special is Jeff? His kindness will never be forgotten. My Dad was a teacher and coach and some of the stories that he would share about his students would lift our spirits and break our hearts. Our youth are precious and thank goodness for those who realize that and make a difference in their lives with an act of kindness and compassion. And many of our educators and others do this on an hourly basis.

And thank you so much for your kind words about my blog. Right back at YOU. I am so glad that we have met here in Blogland. You are a beautiful light of inspiration to us all.


Susannah said...

Thank you for telling us about this boy and his Dad. He is in my prayers.


Benita said...

Hi Dan ~
You are such a sweet and caring person,if more people were like you, the world would be a better place !! Thanks for being an inspiration to all of us : )
Hugs ~

Linda* ~ TheKeepingroom said...

I give myself a reality check often.
Everytime I start to complain about an extra pound or wrinkle. I stop and thank God I'm here to get them.

If you look closely at the photo of my Grandon Ethan( pictured on my side bar)you will see that one of his legs is shorter that the other and he has a lift on his shoe.
He is only eight and has had several surgeries on his leg and foot.
He is the sweetest little boy I have ever known, and the joy of my life.

Tears fill my eyes as I write this. I worry about him so much. I know he faces a life of stares and teasing.

We must teach our children acceptance,
tolerance and compassion.


LeeHillPrimitives said...

OH Dan, I am in tears now. You are right sometimes we dedicate our efforts in simple things and others around us have bigger problems and continues their lives with smiles. Beautiful story! Thanks God that the young man faces Jeff and his coworkers, people that had love in their heart. Hugs and blessings to you and Jeff, Evelyn

Debbie said...

How right you are about no matter how bad we think we may have it, there is always someone else out there that can make our troubles seem small. My prayers are going out the this young man and his family. This story touched my heart. Thank you both for sharing it with us.


Debby said...

So true. We all need to remember that there are bigger problems. We need to be compassionate towards others. Love your your beautiful home and doggies.

Debra said...

That young man sure has my prayers.What a good young man he is!

basketsnprims said...

What an inspiraton this young man is and Jeff and the office staff sound like remarkable and kind people. I'm so thankful there are still people like that in our world today. Thanks for sharing such a truly inspiring story. I will be praying for this young man and his family.

Laura said...

Once again Dan you shared a fantastic story with us! Thank you!!
Have a nice week end!

Tins and Treasures said...

Such a mature attitute for this young man to take...
I teach in our High School, and yes, it sometimes amazes me what our young people have to endure.

Have a fabulous Friday ~Natalie

Cat Nap Inn Primitives said...

thank you Dan for keeping things in perspective for us..I wish the best for that young man..have a great weekend.:)

darlarauch said...

wow, what a wonderful young man he is,, I will continue to keep him in my prayers~ I know he will really go far in life~!
thank you for sharing this with us, hugs, Darla

Cherry Hill Cottage~ said...

Hi Dan~
Thank you for stopping by my blog...
...very nice to meet you!!
Enjoyed reading your post, so inspiring!

Beautiful home, love clicking on the photos to enlarge them, I can see all the great details!! I'm buying a CS-Home Tour Edition so I can see your home in it!

Have a great weekend!!

Grammy Linda / Behind My Red Door said...

Ih Dan - my eyes are leaking now. What a remarkable young man. He is facing such a devastating time in his life - my heart breaks for him. Cancer is such a dreaded monster. I will keep him and his family in my prayers.

Donna~One Simple Country Girl said...

Thanks Dan. That really puts things in perspective! Enjoy your weekend!

Grandma Yellow Hair said...

What a blessing to share this story with all of us. I will of course pray for this young man and his family. He is such an inspiration to all that know him and you are so kind for sharing his story.
I would be like you about having your home posted in a magazine. I have to have a copy of this. Your home is just beautiful and you have to be on cloud nine to have it in this magazine.
You certainly deserve it.

Rugs and Pugs said...

Dan ~
No seventeen year old should have to deal with so much. I will say a special prayer for him :)
Hugs :)

Carla said...

Oh, how sad for this young man and how strong he must be. It is so true, that no matter how bad we feel at times, someone else is much worse off than we are. I will keep him and his family in my prayers.

ChristinaP said...

How true is your story! Sometimes I feel the same way and I'll have a customer just sit and tell me about so many of the problems they are having, it it totally throws me back into reality. The Lord has blessed me and is continuing to bless me and I am truely thankful! God bless this young man and give him the strength to help his family pull through this hard time! Thanks for sharing!

kat449 said...

Hi ((Dan)) Youre so right, angels dont always come with wings do they? Ladt year,I was a supervisor/lunch lady to a (Transitional Educational Program) school where the kids were considered violent/dangerous/drug addicted social outcasts...Who wouldnt be with those labels hanging over their heads? I hear story after story..we all have one dont we? Thank you for shining light where it belongs...back on "love" back on our kids, one our community. Thanks for being a part of mine...LOVE THE SPREAD COUNTRY SAMPLER!!!!YIKES your famous! (wink)
(((Kat))) from (Scaredy Kat & Her Own Crow)

Jo-Anne said...

This is such a sad story, but so inspiring as well.
When I hear stories like these, I become so grateful for my own trials. They seem so trivial in comparison.
My heart breaks for this young man and I pray for him to have the strength and courage to face what is ahead of him.

salachan said...

dan, i saw your home in country sampler. i see you collect juicers and green items. i have a booth in west frankfort, wilsons craft and clutter. i have a green juicer there and would love to give it to you for your lovely home. i have been ill and not at the booth for 2 weeks but will check on it tomorrow. if you would like the juicer let me know. sally holland.

janet said...

Dan..What a touching story..It is true we often get so wrapped up in our own lives that right under our nose is someone who is struggling and we would never know it..A true testament to this young man's spirit..A prayer is being sent out for him..